{"id":488,"date":"2004-01-04T13:47:39","date_gmt":"2004-01-04T18:47:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alevin.com\/?p=488"},"modified":"2004-01-04T13:47:39","modified_gmt":"2004-01-04T18:47:39","slug":"new-years-resolutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alevin.com\/?p=488","title":{"rendered":"New Years Resolutions"},"content":{"rendered":"

Out of all of the goals on the list for 2004, I know how to do all of the items but one.
\nMade fabulous progress last year in professional<\/a> and nonprofit<\/a> activities. I know how to stay fit and eat well, though it’s hard to do when working a zillion hours at a start-up. I kept the resolution to stay in touch with friends and keep social commitments, even when really busy. I completed some small but useful programming projects; learned how to build things small steps at a time and debug.
\nGosh, I’m even procrastinating getting to the point. I’d love to meet the right guy, and don’t know how to do it. So I’d love your advice, dear readers.
\nThere are two methods that people recommend:
\nMethod 1) Have an active life, do things you enjoy, and meet interesting people. Eventually, you’ll meet someone who’s right for you. Or someone you meet will introduce you.
\nThis method is fun and relatively easy. But sloooow<\/i>. I met and briefly dated someone through a non-profit connection, who’s super-smart, fun and capable; not right for an LTR for me, and we’re friends now. That was one guy in a year.
\nMethod 2) Market yourself. First, ask everyone you know to fix you up. This hasn’t had any results so far. I guess I can try again…
\nNext, fill out profiles on the online dating services. Browse profiles and send form letters to plausible-sounding guys. Meet for coffee. The results of this approach have been amusingly disastrous. Outside of “dates”, I meet people I like and make new friends all the time. On “dates” with guys selected by profiles, I meet people who are wildly unsuitable — a guy whose favorite activity is gambling; a guy who wears a concealed handgun at all times; a guy who doesn’t wash. Ask me for more amusing stories, if you like.
\nThis isn’t fun, and hasn’t had any good results so far. So I procrastinate. I put it on my to-do list every single weekend, and lo and behold, do everything else.
\nGentle readers:
\n* Shall I continue to pursue method 1, and trust that the universe will make a connection?
\n* Or shall I smile sweetly, take a photograph<\/a> with a tighter sweater, and write more form letters?
\nAdvice welcome.
\np.s. If you’re a single guy who reads my blog, feel free to drop me a note. Ditto if you know someone I should meet.
\np.p.s. So, you ask… why is such a nice girl still single? Dated the same guy for a long time, during my mid-20s\/early 30s when most people hook up, and didn’t marry him.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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